I was teaching literature and creative writing at a college in Washington when it started. I had driven home to Oregon to celebrate my 38th birthday with my mother.
When I opened the front door to her house, I found her sitting proudly at the kitchen table, a German chocolate cake and two shirt boxes wrapped in the curly orange ribbon in front of her. “Happy birthday!” she said, gesturing shyly at the boxes. “Open them.”
They contained a rainbow’s worth of sports bras — teal, orange, neon green, neon yellow, pink, purple — and shorts to match. Socks too, and a hat.
“It all wicks,” Mom said.
My mom had always been a stellar shopper, and, as she knows me better than anyone, she’d gotten me exactly what I wanted. I’d asked for running clothes, and she’d gotten me running clothes. I hugged her and thanked her and proceeded to eat three slices of cake.
“Too many calories,” I said, not really caring.
Mom dismissively waved off my put-on guilt. We loved our sugar, always had. Cake, cookies, candy: our three favorite food groups. “You’ll run them off tomorrow,” Mom said.
Many adult children with a parent suffering from failing memory or dementia will tell you there was one day, one event, one moment that signaled to them that their relationship with their mother or father would be forever changed.
For me that day came two weeks later when I drove back for another short visit. I came upon exactly the same scene: my mom sitting at the kitchen table; a second untouched German chocolate cake resting next to two more white boxes wrapped in curly ribbon. The ribbon was green this time. That was the only difference. “Happy birthday!” my mom said.
I blinked. Was I stuck in the Matrix? Was Neo’s black cat going to make an appearance soon? “What’s going on?” I asked. Mom smiled. “Can’t I celebrate my daughter's birthday?”
This story is from the May 2019 edition of Good House Keeping - US.
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