Bad Sex Happens. But It Doesn’t Have To Happen Again
Here, we’re focusing on the former: intimacy between two willing partners that falls short of satisfying. Because while all great sex must be consensual— and include communication, passion, and pleasure for both parties—not all consensual sex is great. Some is pretty damn awful, whether it’s with a one-night stand or a long-term lover.
It is possible to fix blah sessions though, says Jill McDevitt, PhD, a sexologist and sexual-wellness coach. There is never a need just to suffer through it, she explains: “Always know that you can stop and check in at any time during sex.”
Can that feel awks? Sure, at first. But it’s well worth it to have better sex. Follow this guide for how to handle a lame lust life. We have several solutions for whatever’s amiss.
TAKE CHARGE
If he goes for something unexpected and not your style but you want to keep the momentum going, say: “We can talk about that later, but what if we do this instead?” Then guide him to your favorite move.
HALT THE ACTION
Can’t deal at all? Sexologist Megan Stubbs suggests saying, “I’m not into that, so if that’s what you’re looking for, it’s not happening with me.” It’s a firm answer that clearly states your case.
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