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Love Advice From Our Guy Guru, Logan Hill.

- Logan Hill

For the last couple of months, I’ve been the only one traveling south during sex. My BF told me that he doesn’t like going down on women in general. I’m happy to give more than I receive, but every now and then, it would be appreciated. How do I get the message across?

A Sometimes guys get weird about oral. He may be insecure and feel like he’s lost when he goes downtown. Boost his confidence by telling him you’ve been fantasizing about having him between your legs. Get specific. Or lure him with some 69. But mostly, just ask—everyone likes to feel wanted. Tell him you need him down there. That he makes you feel so good. Say it until the message sinks in… and his head sinks into your lap.

I AM INSANELY SHY, AND SO IS THE GIRL I’VE BEEN TALKING TO. WE’RE NOT HOOKING UP OR DATING YET, AND ALL I REALLY WANT IS TO BE HER FWB. HOW DO I SAY THAT I’M DOWN TO HOOK UP IN A WAY THAT ISN’T INCREDIBLY TERRIFYING?

First, drop a hint to indicate that you’re not looking for something serious: “I’m so loving my freedom right now.” And avoid falling back on potentially misleading clichés, like “We’re so good together.” Keep it clear by telling her she’s hot, like “Are you as attracted to me as I am to you?”