How To Win When You Lose!

Life never goes as planned, but when something goes wrong, you can bounce back with the right tools.

- Claire Soong

We’ve all been through those heart-breaking, gut wrenching, life-changing events, and each time, the pain is fresh. So wouldn’t it be great if we could find a way to cope and overcome these traumatic experiences?

Having a grieving period when you experience any kind of loss is perfectly normal – healthy even. But it can be all too easy to sink into a cycle of self-doubt. Misery loves company, and we all know that strange feeling of comfort that can be found in self-pity, even when you’re desperately trying to pull yourself together.

Generic advice to just “move on” and “snap out of it” never works – you’d obviously stop feeling this way if you could. Fortunately, there’s a more constructive way to speed up the recovery process, and it starts with getting acquainted with the so-called Three P’s of Trauma: Personalisation, Pervasiveness, and Permanence.

These are the key factors that can stunt a person’s ability to get over disappointment. Recently, COO of Facebook Sheryl Sandberg documented her experience overcoming them in her memoir Option B. If you can learn to work your way out of the the Ps, you might be able to start feeling better sooner.

THE THREE P’s

Personalisation