One of the pitfalls of a long-term relationship is the sexual rut that many couples find themselves in. With the comfort of familiarity, and other commitments vying for attention, action between the sheets often gets put on the back burner and before long, not having sex becomes a habit that is difficult to get out of. “There never seems to be enough time to have sex,” laments Rajyasree Sen, 29, physiotherapist. “Between my clinic, his long work hours, and the kids, it’s almost impossible to eke out time for sex. I would do anything to get back the excitement of the early days of my marriage, when we would get it on like rabbits!”
Reduced sexual activity is a modern malady that affects a large number of urban couples, especially those in long-term relationships, say sexologists and marriage counsellors. The good news is that it’s easily remedied with our roster of practical tips and an equally eager partner.
TEST THE LIMITS
Part of the fun of first-time sex is that it’s new and often forbidden. Get back the excitement of those rushed, hormone-charged frenetic sex sessions by getting it on in forbidden places and times, all within legal limits, of course! “There’s nothing that makes my boyfriend and me feel like horny teenagers again than a long drive out of the city with regular stops for much kissing and other interesting sexual activity,” says Brinda Shah, 26, copywriter. “Making out on the road, with the thrill of getting caught, is a fantastic high I thought I had forgotten.”
While we would not recommend that you risk getting hauled up by the cops, test your limits by catching a quickie while the kids are watching TV in the next room, making out in a friend’s bathroom while the party is still on in the living room, taking a steamy shower together, having sex on the terrace, or skinny-dipping in a private pool.
“Sex doesn’t only have to happen on the bed. Try the couch, kitchen platform, office table. Just make sure it’s private and legal,” says Dr Avani Tiwari, senior consultant psychiatrist, Metro Multispeciality Hospital, Noida/Delhi.
HOW ABOUT SOME ROLE PLAY?
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October 14 2015