Keeping It Saucy!

Sex in long-term relationships.

- Catriona Boffard

Two-year curse? Seven-year itch? We’ve all heard about the sexual slumps that might happen to couples in a relationship, and many of us have experienced it too. Most couples who have been together a long time have most likely experienced a time when sex just wasn’t as exciting as it was before or that sex became a bit too routine and boring. And unfortunately, ‘spicing things up’ with sex toys isn’t always going to cut it! What’s often needed is to take a more holistic look at the relationship.

So here are a few things to consider if sex is just not what it used to be:

1. Talk about it

Many studies have found that couples who talk about sex [outside of the bedroom] actually have more sex. Why? Because they are sharing their desires, fantasies and feel comfortable to tell their partner what works for them in bed. The majority of couples don’t talk about their sex lives - they just do it - and most people are actually rather embarrassed by the topic of sex. Once you recognize that talking about sex can only enhance your relationship, then it can actually lead to a total change to the type of sex you and partner are having. Recognize too if you’re struggling with the topic due to shame, embarrassment or fear, and share this with your partner.

2. Get back to basics