Carefully. Start by asking if she’s sleeping well, says therapist Carolina Castaños, Ph.D. If she says no, the conversation just got easier.
Otherwise, use the health angle— poor sleep is a risk factor for depression and heart disease. Tell her you want to try separate beds, just to see if it helps. Castaños suggests trying separate beds in the same room, but hang out with her in her bed each night before you head to your own.
WE’RE TWO MONTHS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, AND I LET OUT AN “I LOVE YOU.” SHE SAID, “THAT’S SWEET.” SHOULD I BE WORRIED? — PETER
Maybe she’s never said it before. Maybe she doesn’t like being so vulnerable this soon. Either way, she just wasn’t ready. Your job right now: Don’t let her non-reply freak you out. You’re on your own timeline, and she now knows how you feel. If you guys haven’t talked about it after another month or so, and things are going well, feel free to bring it up. She still might not be ready to say it, but if she cares about you, he should be ready to talk about it.
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