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Am I Going To Post This, Or Are You?

Sharing and “liking” can undermine a relationship. It can also ignite, build and fortify one. Here’s how to do it right.

Brielle Gregory

Take Sean O’Brien, a divorced dad living with Kendra, his new wife. The two met online. Early on, she wanted to see Sean post on Facebook about their life together, especially given the messages he’d received from women from his past. “I just wanted him to show them he was taken,” she says.

Sean understood that. But posting could stir up drama with his ex. They compromised: He’d post occasionally.

So that’s the first lesson in this age of social media: Talk it over. Researchers call this online display of affection “mediated PDA.” Social media presents a very public multimedia experience with your significant other, says Rebecca Hayes, who teaches communications at Illinois State University.

How’s your show? For some, an anniversary portrait provides a rush of commitment and happiness. For more private types, that may be a post too far.

Matt and Robin Fleming met on Instagram – his California shots brightened her Toronto-based feed. The app became Insta-glue for their 4,500km relationship.

“People, I think, started checking my photos to see if I was talking about Matt,” Robin says. “We had that builtin audience cheering us on.” If you follow the expert suggestions on this spread, anything is possible. Matt and Robin had become their own publicists – and eventually married.

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