The Naked Truth
Women's Health South Africa|December 2018
The Naked Truth

We asked our experts the things you might not want to…

Leigh Champanis-King

Q “My girlfriend and I want to introduce some toys into our sex play. Where should we start?”

ANSWER

“Sex toys have advanced so radically when it comes to technology and design that just about all intimate products can be used on all people regardless of gender, body type or sexual preference. There are, however, product categories that have been designed specifically for women who want to make love to women. For a more gentle introduction, try a bullet vibrator – using it across her clitoris, labia and nipples. These vibes have pinpoint precision and are perfect for creating arousal, sexual tension and intense orgasms. Combine this with a little sensory play in the form of feather ticklers, blindfolds and massage oil.

For those looking for toys a little more purposeful, Désir stocks a wide range of strap-on vibrators and dildos. These are toys designed to fit into a harness that allows you to thrust into your partner, giving her penetrative stimulation. Using a vibrator allows you to switch from penetration to clitoral stimulation – a must for dual-pleasure and explosive orgasms and best used with your favourite water-based lubricant for added comfort.” – Désir.co.za experts

Q“My partner ejaculates really quickly and I don’t always have time to orgasm before he’s done. Will a penis ring help him last longer?”

ANSWER “Penis rings are often associated with increasing pleasure during sex. While this is true, their primary purpose is to assist in alleviating premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction symptoms. Designed to be worn at the base of his penis, these stretchy silicone rings apply pressure to the blood vessels and gently restrict the amount of blood leading out of the penis, resulting in a firmer erection and delayed ejaculation. With the added benefit of increased pleasure and sensation, penis rings are an obvious choice when it comes to delaying ejaculation. First-timers: wear it only for five to 10 minutes at a time to get used to the sensation and only for 30 minutes at a time thereafter.”

– Désir.co.za experts

Q “I’m in my late thirties, in a long-term relationship, and have lost my sex drive. Is this age-related or could I be bored of my partner?”

ANSWER “Are there any unresolved issues between you and your partner? Have any life-changing events occurred in your life recently? Are you on a healthy diet and do you take part in some form of physical activity? Our sex drive does change with age and most are said to be in their prime in their thirties. It could be your hormones that are not what they should be and you’d have to consult your doctor to check that. As to whether or not you’re bored of your partner, only you can honestly answer that.”

– Jade Zwane, sex and life coach

Q “I’M STRUGGLING WITH URINARY INCONTINENCE. IS THERE SOMETHING I CAN DO TO STOP IT OR AM I DOOMED TO NEVER BEING ABLE TO LAUGH OR SNEEZE STRESS-FREE AGAIN?”

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December 2018