A once-serial dater questions how easy it is to find love in 2017
Around 2011, my friend told me he’d met a guy on a gay app called Grindr. We thought it was a fun fad and yet by 2013 I found myself on my first Tinder date. Sticky dance floors were replaced with swiping in my trackies, spurred on by mates and vino. Before long, it was more than an underground movement. If you were single, you were on the “apps” and the idea of meeting someone “in real life” was a bit odd.
In a decade, the dating world has evolved rapidly, leaving a whole generation of singles chasing their tails. I asked life and business coach Lauren Trlin why it’s hard to keep up these days. “Technology is that little bit ahead of us,” she says. “We’re the first generation that are meeting people on a phone. Think of how much we have to keep up with, evolution-wise.” And it’s true – the new dating world requires you to be more agile than a soccer player because the goalposts move every day.
THE APP SIDE
For the most part, I enjoyed the apps. Sure, I dealt with so many ghosters that I could open a haunted house, but I’d previously met plenty of duds in the bar too. Frankly, I was thankful for a new avenue to meet men – I was hardly being bombarded with bachelors at my women’s magazine job.
This story is from the December 2017 edition of Women's Health South Africa.
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