What To Do When You're Jealous
Cosmopolitan India|April 2019
What To Do When You're Jealous

Instead of blocking these thoughts forcefully, here’s what you can do to get the better of them.

Sumaiya Shuaibdeen

We all get jealous. It’s a fact of life. No matter how upstanding we are, we all succumb to envy and resentment at one point or another. And chances are the individuals we are jealous of don’t do anything to aggravate us, but only mind their own business. So, are we the problem?

Yes and no. Here’s the logic: we create an irrational hatred towards someone’s mere existence because our brains are programmed to resist people we think might hinder us from achieving something we consider important. No-one really is to blame. It’s just a matter of accepting this truth about jealousy and moving forward with a strategy to tackle it. Here are few key causes of jealousy and how to deal.

Mounting Insecurity

APPEARANCE

The moment you realise that someone with better looks has walked into your workspace, subconsciously, your attire game begins skyrocketing to get more attention than the pretty coworker. You should always look your absolute best and not aim to compete with someone else. The fact of the matter is that there will always be someone else who will be better looking than you. But, the goal is to ensure it doesn’t affect how you perceive yourself. The more you choose to be better than someone else, the less content you will be with yourself, and that, girlfriend, can lead to an entire life wasted!

AROUND THE OFFICE

Insecurity leaps in when you start doubting yourself at work, and this leads to envying other successful women and men. Healthy competition is always welcome, but hoping for your peers’ downfall is not very cool. Basically, when you’re jealous, you believe someone else’s failure will create your own success. But, you rise up when you celebrate co-workers’ successes just like you would yours. Your real success will depend on your hard work and intelligence, so once you’ve got that, nothing can stand in your way.

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April 2019