*This* is a Big Sign You're Headed Fort a Breakup...

Sure, being part of a couple can be awesome: You always have someone to talk to, borrow steal hoodies from and an automatic plus one for the winter semi-formal.

And while no relationship is perfect, if you’re feeling like the flame is flickering, it’s time to take stock of your romance sitch. Tbh, your bae might not even be a bad person—just a bad match for you. Here’s how to figure out if you should start the new year solo.

YOU’RE SUPER BUSY

A cappella choir auditions, that new dog-walking gig, tutoring your neighbor’s daughter in algebra and studying for your massive French final…and that’s just this week. Top it off with family plans and bestie hangouts, and you’re left with mere minutes for bae.

As much as you’d like to make a relationship work, the reality is that you’re just not at a place to make romance a priority. And that’s OK. There’s such a thing as “right person, wrong time”— and your crush would rather hear that than feel like last choice.

YOU’RE FEELING INSECURE/ GUILTY/CONTROLLED