9 Things You Should Never Say To Your BFF

Aka your crash course in being the best bestie ever.

- Mridu Khullar Relph

You and your BFF are so close, you can say anything to her...or so you thought. But no matter how tight your bestie bond may be, it’s still good to have a filter when it comes to touchy topics. Here’s how to serve up the honest truth in a way that’s helpful—not hurtful.

“YOU’RE SERIOUSLY WEARING THAT?”

The two of you are heading to your school’s Friday night dance—and she shows up in bright blue tights, a red top and a mustard yellow mini. While you’re tempted to ask if she’s going to a ’70s costume party, rein it in. Chances are she thought long and hard about this ensemble...and you criticizing it or questioning it is just going to make her self-conscious and upset.

SOFTEN THE BLOW: If you truly think the girl needs some guidance in the style department (like she’s wearing something that’s super borderline for your school’s dance dress code), go with a gentler approach. Try, “I’m not really sure that works for tonight. Wanna borrow my pink dress you love? It always looks amazing on you.” If she’s simply opting to rock a look that you find a little far out fashion-wise, zip it. You never know, maybe she’s onto a trend you just haven’t heard about yet.

“WHAT DO YOU EVEN SEE IN THAT GUY?”

Your bestie is head over heels for the school bad boy, and you think she’s way too good for him. Still, it’s best to keep your thoughts to yourself unless you have a legit reason for her to run far, far away. (Think: He cheats, he drinks or he does other illegal stuff.) Simply telling your bud her BF is bad news because you don’t like him will most likely just make her mad—and make you look jealous.