6 Tips To Stop Self-Sacrificing
Girls' Life magazine|February/March 2018

Get strong and assertive in six smart steps.

Patricia Mcnamara
6 Tips To Stop Self-Sacrificing

Your bestie is begging you to be her duet partner in the spring talent show—and you’d much rather work on your submission for the art exhibit than endure hours in the music room, but you say yes anyway. Sound familiar? It’s easy to become a full-on people pleaser, but there are ways to do what you want—without feeling guilty.

#1: OWN YOUR ANSWER

Always feel awkward when you express your opinion? Make a personal pact that you’ll speak up the next time you need to take a stand on something. Say you really don’t like the way your BFF always bugs you for your history HW, yet you constantly fork it over just to avoid her drama. Ax this act by letting her know she needs to do her own work, but you’re happy to help if needed. Keep your tone friendly but firm—the more direct, controlled and composed you are when it comes to speaking your mind, the more respect you’ll command from others.

#2: CHECK YOUR EMOTIONS

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